Genre: Drama
Publisher: Algonquin
Publication Date: November 2009
Jennifer Roman’s Review:
Dr. Pete Dizinoff and his wife live a comfortable life in the suburbs of New Jersey. He is an internist with a good practice and she teaches English at the local college. Their dearest friends, Joe and Iris Stern, have been friends with them since college.
The story begins with Dr. Pete looking at his family from outside the house. He has been banished from the home and is now living in the studio apartment above the garage—the studio apartment that used to belong to his son Alec. Why he is thrown out of the house is not known, but it’s up to the reader to discover his transgressions. Dr. Pete recounts how he and his wife and the Sterns used to go on vacations every year, how they celebrated holidays together, and how they just generally grew up together. He then explains how the Sterns and he survive the tragedy caused by the Sterns’ daughter Laura. It turns out that she gets pregnant as a teen but hides it from her family. She delivers in a public restroom, and the baby dies. All of this becomes the talk of the town when the baby’s body is found in a Dumpster, and Laura is charged with killing the baby after it was born. Dr. Pete then fast-forwards a few years to after Laura is released from a mental institution (her punishment for killing the baby) and is back with her family. Even though she is considerably older than he is, Alec is taken with Laura and spends every waking moment with her. This leads to Dr. Pete’s downfall and subsequent estrangement from his family.
This book was rather tedious with more details and information than needed. As I read the story I kept wondering what one thing had to do with another. Usually the “daily activities” in life of a character are interesting, but these ones were not. I was also challenged by cultural differences because I struggled to understand Jewish references. There are many cultural activities, vocabulary, and observances that are not familiar to me. Knowing Jewish culture and vocabulary would be a big help.
There is a smattering of profanity throughout the book, but what I mostly caution about is the death of a baby. For those sensitive to such issues, I strongly caution them about several scenes in the story. There’s not necessarily blood and gore violence, but there are some sensitive scenes. Readers with an aversion to violence against a baby should seriously consider not reading A Friend of the Family.
Overall, the story was tedious and didn’t really make me want to find out what happened. As I read, I mostly was concerned with just getting through the story. Maybe others will feel differently, but as I read, I just wanted the book to be done.
Marianne Peters’ Review:
“I was never as grateful as I should have been for everything I had.”
As Lauren Grodstein’s engrossing novel, A Friend of the Family, opens, we find Pete Dizinoff exiled to his son’s former digs above the garage. His wife is contemplating divorce, his only child is abandoning his home, his internal medicine practice has imploded, and he has lost his best friend. The novel explains how he came to this desperate moment, how a solid suburban life can be slowly dismantled when someone unexpected inspires possibilities a parent never imagined for his child.
It’s popular to dismiss the suburbs as a place for shallow social-climbers to show off their wealth. However Grodstein’s Round Hill community is a place where friends cook out, take walks, and even enjoy a glimpse of wildlife now and then. The Dizinoffs dote on their son Alec, nineteen. In their circle of moneyed professionals, everyone expects that their children will equal or surpass their achievements. Alec has not turned out to be a motivated scholar, so Pete and Elaine have enrolled him in college, hoping he’ll land on his feet.
Meanwhile, their best friends and neighbors, Joe and Iris, welcome back their long-lost daughter Laura. As a troubled teen, Laura got pregnant, concealed her condition, and killed her newborn after she bore it alone in a bathroom stall. Now thirty years old, living on her own, she’s back for a visit before she heads off again, this time for Paris. Though she’s now lovely, smart, and engaging, Pete still thinks of her as a child-killer. Alec falls in love with Laura, planning to ditch college and accompany her overseas. Pete tries to stop him, convinced he is doing the right thing for Alec. In his struggle to preserve his son’s future, Pete’s efforts arouse the ghosts of the past, re-opening wounds that had almost healed and blinding him to very real concerns of the present: a faltering marriage and a patient with a puzzling condition. Even with his world coming apart, Pete believes he’s doing what any parent would do for his son … isn’t he?
In this age of helicopter parents, Grodstein challenges her readers to think about the role a parent should play in their adult child’s life. Her novel also reveals how a smooth-as-glass life can suddenly ripple, and it is all the more chilling because in her capable hands, such a story has the ring of truth.
Review copy provided by Algonquin Publishers.